Arranging a service
Whether it’s a funeral, a service, or a celebration of life, what you choose to call it is entirely up to you. If you're feeling stuck and don’t know where to start with organising the event, we have compiled some key steps to help you.
Funeral directors
A funeral director is often the person who will arrange the funeral and help guide you through the process. Funeral directors are often part of National Association of Funeral Directors - NAFD or the Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors – SAIF. This means they are abiding by certain practises and if anything does go wrong you would be able to file a complaint through these associations. It helps protect you.
You can plan a service without a funeral director. Depending on your religious practices, your community may have different ways to support you through the process. Or you can look at the Natural Death Centre, which can advise on ‘family-led’ funerals as well as your local government.
Dealing with costs
Costs are the last thing you want to think about but they are a big part of the planning process. If you’re struggling with costs, we have another guide that includes information on financial help.
Usually, the funeral home or crematorium will have a list of standard pricing. It will be on their website or on their premises, feel free to ask for this because it can help you get an idea of what it will cost, which can take away a lot of anxiety.
Once you have chosen your service, you should be given a written estimate of the cost. This will break down all the costs involved and you could use this to compare prices with others in your area. If they do not give you a written estimate, just ask.
It is important to note that some funeral directors may ask for a deposit, which is something you may want to clarify before making any plans.
After all the costs are confirmed you may have to sign a contract - know that it is okay to read this in your own time. Make sure you understand it and take your time to Google anything you find confusing.
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Gardens of Peace is a Registered Charity. It operates cemeteries for all sections of the Muslim community - you can read their free practical help guide here!
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The Jewish Small Communities Network has a simple guide, with information on funerals, practises and some case studies.
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Good Thinking provide a guide on Hindusim and Bereavement, with links to other support services that may be helpful.
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The Natural Death Centre provides a list of all the burial sites in the UK that meet specific codes of conduct.
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Lasting Post has an article all about etiquette for Sikh funerals, as well as Child Bereavement UK who signpost to other helpful services.
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Child Bereavement UK and the Buddhist Society have helpful guides and information on funerals.